Time seems on someone else's side. My sweet sweet brother-in-law is gone, after a year of being failed by both Science and God. I know I have no right to be bitter, but I had a half-lifetime of memories to create with him that no one but me will ever recall. I don't know how people cope with this sort of loss... but somehow we do.
I'm still trying to fix and prettify this blogsite, but I'm hampered by the fact that I can only connect to the internet from work. No home connection for now. Well, at least you can read this.
I continue to be impressed by the level of ignorance of the Democratic Party, which seems to think that the juggernaut of mainstream media is some sort of advantage for them, rather than the profound dysfunction it really represents. Well, if there's nothing to drink but paint thinner it must be some sort of ambrosia. If the Republicans weren't so clueless I'd predict a Republican landslide come November, but they're just barely more savvy than their opponents, so they may actually lose ground.
If it were a Presidential year it'd be a great time for a Third Party movement, but those are tough to get going in off-year elections. Unrehearsed history needs charisma.
The "Anti-war Movement" is taking on the attributes of a cult. But in this case it's led by mainstream media, which makes it a cultural plunge into the abyss. Where do the rest of us come in? Hell, it makes me nostalgic for The Steve Miller Band's memo from the future:
Tomorrow's come a long, long way to help you.Yeah, it's your saving grace
Condolences we are sorry to hear of his passing.
Posted by: Howi at May 11, 2006 01:41 PMI am so sorry to hear about your loss.
My mother passed away a couple of weeks ago suddenly and unexpectedly..its very tough.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said that those who are successful and make it to heaven in the hereafter they will be with the ones they love.
To me, the human longing for hope and the realization of the pervasive injustice of this world are the best proofs that there is more to existence than just this life. God is in control and in the end justice will be done. (If we didn't know this, how could we go on?)
Again, I'm sorry for your loss. I will remember you and your family in my prayers and I would ask that you could do the same for me.
Peace,
Abu Noor
Posted by: Abu Noor al-Irlandee at May 11, 2006 01:45 PMVery nice. Peace to you as well and sorry for your loss.
Posted by: Howie at May 11, 2006 02:14 PMDemosophist,
I turned to the Bible for comfort when my mother-in-law passed away. After quite a bit of searching, I found this Psalm. I hope it gives you and your sister the comfort that it gave me.
86:1 Incline your ear, O Lord, and answer me,
for I am poor and needy.
2 Preserve my life, for I am godly;
save your servant, who trusts in you—you are my God.
3 Be gracious to me, O Lord,
for to you do I cry all the day.
4 Gladden the soul of your servant,
for to you, O Lord, do I lift up my soul.
5 For you, O Lord, are good and forgiving,
abounding in steadfast love to all who call upon you.
6 Give ear, O Lord, to my prayer;
listen to my plea for grace.
7 In the day of my trouble I call upon you,
for you answer me.
8 There is none like you among the gods, O Lord,
nor are there any works like yours.
9 All the nations you have made shall come
and worship before you, O Lord,
and shall glorify your name.
10 For you are great and do wondrous things;
you alone are God.
11 Teach me your way, O Lord,
that I may walk in your truth;
unite my heart to fear your name.
12 I give thanks to you, O Lord my God, with my whole heart,
and I will glorify your name forever.
13 For great is your steadfast love toward me;
you have delivered my soul from the depths of Sheol.
14 O God, insolent men have risen up against me;
a band of ruthless men seek my life,
and they do not set you before them.
15 But you, O Lord, are a God merciful and gracious,
slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness.
16 Turn to me and be gracious to me;
give your strength to your servant,
and save the son of your maidservant.
17 Show me a sign of your favor,
that those who hate me may see and be put to shame
because you, Lord, have helped me and comforted me.
I'm so sorry. I wish you and your family the best. Peace.
Posted by: tommy at May 11, 2006 10:03 PMWishing strength for you and your family. Words always seem to ring hollow in times of such grief, but I hope you can find peace.
Posted by: at May 12, 2006 12:56 AM"Somehow we do"...eventually. Though he's not here in body, he will always be with you in spirit. Memories don't die, just the body. May you find some comfort in the good memories, and in the knowledge that he truly is in a better form of life. It doesn't happen overnight, but peace will come, eventually.
Now we know that if the earthly tent we live in is destroyed, we have a building from God, an eternal house in heaven, not built by human hands.
2 Corinthians 5
Posted by: Beth at May 12, 2006 02:43 AMPlease accept my condolences.
Posted by: Ted at May 12, 2006 07:23 AMI am sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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Posted by: Jane at May 15, 2006 07:14 PMIn a 10 year period I lost my sister, my wife, my belove aunt and both parents. There are no words that anyone can give that will take away the pain and sense of abandonment and even anger. But, there is something you can do. Talk about your Brother in law, tell others of his many kindnesses, his humor, the funny things that he and he alone would do, his sence of drive and of purpose. Initially, it will be painful and you will cry. But, as time goes on, you will heal and the memories you are left with will be glorious.
In my counseling practice, when I have a patient with a loss, I let them know that grieving is hard work, perhaps the hardest work we know, but it is necessary work and it is work that will set us free.
God bless and protect you!
GM Roper
Posted by: GM Roper at May 16, 2006 10:43 PM